A discovered extramarital affair of your
partner is indeed devastating, and knowing that you have been betrayed
by the one you love will surely turn your world upside down.
Overcoming pain from marital infidelity is a long and tedious
process but if both parties are willing to give the marriage another
shot and believes that divorce is not the end of it all it is still
possible for a happily ever after.
Healing from infidelity requires
both parties' cooperation.
If you
are trying to make things work to keep the marriage together, you will
have to accept the reality that this journey will not be an easy ride
and will take more than the usual effort to put things together. Even
the betrayed spouse should do conscious efforts to ignite the love and
rebuild the trust again.
For the unfaithful partner, it will mean double effort to prove that
you are sorry and commit that you will be honest a hundred percent this
time around. It will be nice to lay all the facts of the affair so the
other partner would also realize his/her shortcoming.
Next is to be sorry about it. Remorse is the key
in mending anything broken. Admitting to the mistake is the only way
your spouse could even consider taking you back.
Change your lifestyle.
Accept the new rules that will be stated by the betrayed spouse like
no boy's night out or dinner dates with clients of the opposite sex
again. Avoiding the scenes that led you to infidelity would be a good
sign for your partner to start trusting you again.
On
the other hand, the betrayed party also has steps to consider when
healing from infidelity.
First, you must clearly point out what must be
done to regain your trust once again. Only you can decide what can mend
your broken heart so it is best to make it clear. Choosing to forgive
is probably the hardest step but it is necessary in order for both of
you start over with clean slates.
Lastly, spend time and avoid having
to bring back the affair topic again. This way healing from infidelity
might be faster for both of you.
Rebuilding a marriage is another leap for the both of you not only to
restore your family but also for self-contentment and maturity.
About The Author
Tammy Love is the chief editor of Surviving-Infidelity.com. She is helping those who have suffered Infidelity to survive and thrive and
move forward by providing support and a community to help each other
through the difficult times.
Contact Tammy to find out more about how to Survive Infidelity and
get your free 6 Steps to Surviving Infidelity Report; learn more in http://www.surviving-infidelity.com/infidelity-news.html
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