Who would've thought saying three little words
could be so difficult or open up such a can of worms for a couple who
cares about one another? Unfortunately, in the beginnings of a
relationship that has the potential to be serious, that's exactly how
saying "I love you" is viewed.
And there are plenty of stereotypes out
there: Women always say it first.
A man should NEVER say it first. And
there are the awkward scenarios that play out when one partner says it
before the feeling is entirely mutual. The truth is that someone has to
say it at some point when the relationship is ready to go to the next
level.
Does it really matter who it is? Not so much. But men and women
have preconceived notions on when it should be said, according to a
recent study. Most survey respondents said women would say "I love you"
first - an average of 23 days sooner than a man.
However, the truth is
that when couples were surveyed, 61-70 percent said the man had said it
first and considered saying it a lot sooner than the woman. Timing is everything among the sexes as well. The
study found that women preferred to hear it after the couple had had sex - an affirmation beforehand seemed to indicate insincerity and
untrustworthiness on the man's part.
Men preferred hearing it before sex
because it seemed more "honest."
Certainly there are no hard-and-fast
rules about when or if you should say it, but it goes without saying
that a declaration of love seems downright weird a couple dates into the
relationship. When the time is right, one of you will know and say
those three words.
In the meantime, show you care through your actions,
not your words.
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